graftversushost:

paraphrased:

We don’t need to come up with new oppressions to explain why abuse of women is excused by the woman’s lifestyle.

Emphasis mine because holy shit.

reblogged for perfection

graftversushost:

paraphrased:

We don’t need to come up with new oppressions to explain why abuse of women is excused by the woman’s lifestyle.

Emphasis mine because holy shit.

reblogged for perfection

(Source: , via saltmarshhag-deactivated2013011)

heartinakiln:

cw gore? medical stuff?

whatswiththebirds:

heartinakiln:

wingolamo:

jinkerbell:

locustinthefield:

stfufauxminists:pansymandy:

A life is a life. No matter how small. Didn’t you learn anything from Horton hears a Who? 

I can’t tell if this is sarcasm or not, but if I’m really supposed to base my morals regarding complex social issues that affect millions of women’s lives and extremely tragic personal issues (such as the story of the woman and her abortion you deleted from this reblog) on fucking Dr. Seuss books, well then fuck me for wasting the last 10 years on school when I could have dropped out in 2nd grade and known all I needed to about life huh.

And Dr. Seuss’ wife sued pro life activists for using that phrase, so.

HOLY SHIT, REALLY?

what a badass lady

also most fetuses don’t have full heads of hair

also bacteria are ‘lifes’, stop using antibacterial hand sanitizers, you fucking murderer

it’s a drawing of a partial birth abortion. Aren’t these done out of medical necessity, though, since an actual…uh…birth occurs? Like don’t most people who decide to get an abortion do it early? It just doesn’t seem logical to do it when you could just birth the fetus. Iirc, these are done when needed. Idk why it’s a profile/choice issue.

partial birth abortion is such a fucking annoying name and it’s not even a medical term.

wikipedia says 0.17% of abortions are performed in this manner (in the US). it is normally done after 16 weeks. the main reason abortions are performed like this is because the fetus has some deformity that would cause it to die before term, during birth or soon after or because the life of the mother is endangered (for example, there could be the potential for a dangerous miscarriage). most of these pregnancies were wanted. the fetus is removed intact so that its parents can hold it and probably grieve over their lost child. dr tiller performed abortions like these and spoke about how emotional they were, and how sickening it was that the anti choicers neglected to notice this facet of the procedure and instead focused on the mechanics.

it’s funny, because there are other methods of aborting later term fetuses that dismember the fetus in utero and then remove the pieces. but anti choicers like to focus on this specific rare procedure, and act as thought it is exceptionally horrifying. in reality this procedure helps people have a chance to safely grieve over a wanted child.

when we do not allow abortions like that, we force women with wanted pregnancies whose fetuses have fatal deformities to make extremely hard choices. wait until you miscarry and risk your health or potentially carry the fetus to term and watch it die after you give birth to it, or have it aborted as though you never wanted it at all and never have the chance to hold your child.

that is what the anti choicers are fighting for when they want to take away ~partial birth abortions~. that is what they want to do to women/people with uteruses. when operation rescue stood outside dr tiller’s clinic and screamed at and harassed his patients, they didn’t care why they were there or what they might’ve been going through. they were too busy with their misogyny. 

but really guys! it’s all about the poor babies!

give me a fucking break

Your origins should not be held against you [referring to the fetus]. The woman becomes a sin-bearer of the crime, because the right of a child predominates over the embarrassment of the woman.

Bob Marshall, a Virginia legislator, regarding victims of rape who seek an abortion.

This is why I hate my state.

(via bethefoodoflove)

what in the actual fuck

(via heartinakiln)

what what what

the embarrassment of the woman?

(via heartinakiln)

heartinakiln:

jonathan-cunningham:

ghostlove:

(via Do They Really Believe Abortion Is Murder?)

Positions that are inconsistent with the idea that abortion is murder, but consistent with the idea that women deserve to be punished for having sex.

well would you look at that

heartinakiln:

jonathan-cunningham:

ghostlove:

(via Do They Really Believe Abortion Is Murder?)

Positions that are inconsistent with the idea that abortion is murder, but consistent with the idea that women deserve to be punished for having sex.

well would you look at that

As a society, we encourage girls and women to be emotionally accessible, and in touch with their feelings; we say that it’s an innately feminine trait. We say it, that is, until they have feelings that make us uncomfortable, at which point we recast them as melodramatic harpies, shrieking banshees, and basket cases.

Tori Amos (via fuckyeahfeministartandliterature)

(Source: imanassspankme, via rumblytumblybear)

"Hi, I’m a girl! But all my friends are boys because other girls are gross, lol! And I’m so much better than other girls because I play video games! And like sports! And hate feminism! And will make you a sandwich, lol! And other girls are bitches and I’m not and all my friends have totally all been guys!"

dionthesocialist:

iamateenagefeminist:

laydownanywhere:

YOUR INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM OKAY. 

Hi, I’m a guy. Your willingness to degrade your entire sex doesn’t make you more attractive to me.

dude, no one gives a fuck what is attractive to you.

DEAR MEN: STOP TRYING TO MAKE WOMEN CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR BY HOLDING OUT THE CARROT OF YOUR ATTRACTION TO THEM LIKE IT’LL MAGICALLY MOTIVATE US TO DO WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT. YOU’RE NOT HELPING, YOU’RE NOT BEING ~FEMINIST, YOU’RE GROSS.

also, guys, just stay out of conversations about internalized misogyny. your input is not at all valuable or needed.

(via dion-thesocialist)

"Hi, I’m a girl! But all my friends are boys because other girls are gross, lol! And I’m so much better than other girls because I play video games! And like sports! And hate feminism! And will make you a sandwich, lol! And other girls are bitches and I’m not and all my friends have totally all been guys!"

dionthesocialist:

partysoft:

dionthesocialist:

iamateenagefeminist:

laydownanywhere:

YOUR INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM OKAY. 

Hi, I’m a guy. Your willingness to degrade your entire sex doesn’t make you more attractive to me.

dude, no one gives a fuck what is attractive to you.

DEAR MEN: STOP TRYING TO MAKE WOMEN CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR BY HOLDING OUT THE CARROT OF YOUR ATTRACTION TO THEM LIKE IT’LL MAGICALLY MOTIVATE US TO DO WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT. YOU’RE NOT HELPING, YOU’RE NOT BEING ~FEMINIST, YOU’RE GROSS.

also, guys, just stay out of conversations about internalized misogyny. your input is not at all valuable or needed.

I apologize. I didn’t mean to insinuate that the post had anything to do with who I’m personally attracted to, so I’m sorry.

thank you for the apology. in the future, please remember that women’s internalized misogyny isn’t something men should really be running their mouths about - especially if they’re going to make it about them.

(via dion-thesocialist)

abrokenfishbowl:

permutationofninjas:

party soft: “Hi, I’m a girl! But all my friends are boys because other girls are gross, lol! And I’m so much better than other girls…

just-smith:

iamabutchsolo:

partysoft:

dionthesocialist:

iamateenagefeminist:

laydownanywhere:

YOUR INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM OKAY.

Hi, I’m a guy. Your willingness to degrade your entire sex doesn’t make you more attractive to me.

dude, no one gives a fuck what is attractive to you.

DEAR MEN: STOP TRYING TO MAKE WOMEN CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR BY HOLDING OUT THE CARROT OF YOUR ATTRACTION TO THEM LIKE IT’LL MAGICALLY MOTIVATE US TO DO WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT. YOU’RE NOT HELPING, YOU’RE NOT BEING ~FEMINIST, YOU’RE GROSS.

also, guys, just stay out of conversations about internalized misogyny. your input is not at all valuable or needed.

^ Um, I agree with this last commentary except the part about men staying out of conversations about internalized misogyny. Perhaps their male privilege prevents them from understanding the entirety of the conversation, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t talk about it and possibly learn something.

I think partysoft has misunderstood. The original post was about a girl being misogynist and advertising that fact to men, because she felt that it made her more attractive to them. Dionthesocialist was correcting that, and saying that internalised misogyny isn’t necessarily sexy. So if anything he was taking the carrot away, and noting that treating an entire sex fairly was more important than gaining his attraction. The magical motivation was already in play, and he was removing it.

Partysoft’s reaction to that was unnecessarily hostile, and confused. She makes a good point about the magical carrot being used, and I agree that we shouldn’t be motivated to make our decisions based on which option is more likely to get us a date (as modern society tells us to). But that’s something that happens to both men and women, and not just in heterosexual relationships. I understand that this is an issue that feminists might be particularly angry about, because they probably face a lot of ‘being a feminist won’t get you laid’ (try being a male feminist and a masculist), but this is not the time or place. The original girl was being misogynist because she thought it would get her male attention, and dion was pointing out that she was wrong. He’s not your target here.

Also: telling an entire sex to stay away because their opinions are apparently worthless simply because of the way they are biologically configured, not cool.

In complaining about men commenting on internalized misogyny, partysoft betrays externalized misandry.

Everyone misses in all of this that there may be some women out there who genuinely have a problem with how most women behave.  I know a few.  They’re quite clear on who they have a problem with and why, and they’re not doing it for the attention.  Having a problem with how women behave does not make one a misogynist, unless one applies this to women who don’t behave that way.  Having a problem with gossip is fine, and having a problem with most women because most women gossip is fine, but having a problem with a woman who doesn’t gossip because most women do gossip isn’t.  Similarly, this person would find a man who behaved that way equally objectionable, they just don’t see many men who behave like that.  

Objecting to particular behaviors does not make someone a misogynist or a misandrist. It’s the difference between “I don’t like most women because they do X” and “women are gross, so I don’t like them.”

That said, one of few things less attractive to me than misogyny is misandry.  Neither are appropriate.

A woman saying she hates women to get attention is bad, but even that’s not necessarily misogyny because she doesn’t necessarily believe it.  Similarly, women who have a genuine and measured problem with how most other women act isn’t a misogynist either.

Here that Softy? You are a misandrist. You should feel bad. Really bad that you hurt men’s feelings.

omg, these people.

LISTEN UP, EVERYONE:

telling men that they have no business speaking up in conversations regarding women’s internalized misogyny is not wrong or mean or bad. this is something that should only concern women. sometimes men’s input can occasionally be valuable in feminist discussions, like when brainstorming how to most effectively communicate to men in some kind of ad campaign against sexual assault or something.

but when talking about our experiences as women submerged in a society that hates us, when talking about our experiences dealing with other women who choose certain ways to express the self-hatred we’re all taught from birth, we don’t want to hear from men. this is not a conversation that concerns you or needs your input, because it has nothing to do with you, guys.

and that’s okay. if you want to consider yourself a feminist ally, you’re going to have to get used to the idea that not every subject needs to have something to do with you and that not every conversation needs your voice.

FURTHERMORE, misandry is not equivalent to misogyny. it is certainly not worse than misogyny.

misandry is women’s reaction to living in a world where men are exalted, prioritized, praised, normalized, and generally given a whole heaping ton of privilege. it does not have centuries upon centuries of men’s marginalization and oppression behind it, because men have never been oppressed for being men. ever.

hating men as a class is a response to the reality women live in, where men are always preferred over us (except when objectification or violence is on the menu). it is our response to being treated as subhuman even sometimes by the men we love and care about and always by our broader, patriarchal society.

so no, there’s nothing wrong with misandry. it upsets you because it violently up-ends everything our man-loving, woman-hating society tells you is right. men, it freaks you out because you are used to getting your boots licked constantly.

so yeah, misandry 4 lyfe, because even the optimist in me understands that I will not live to see the day when women are finally raised up to be equals with men.

(via ambrosigonalley)

hyaenid:

『(´・ω・`)・✿』: ( TW Rape ) neo_prodigy likes to ban criticism of his book, so here’s a review

khajiiti:

Mr. Dennis R. Upkins Jr. (neo_prodigy in Livejournal) has been busy since his latest bouts. Somehow, after saying women of color who disagree with him are using the race card and any unfortunate woman who’d get into a relationship with him would be forced to take contraceptives he’s been…

don’t spend money on Hollowstone.

(via raisedbyhyenas)

Journal of a SpaceCowboy: RAPE. RAPE. RAPE. RAPISTS.

hyper—ballad:

im-a-spacecowboy:

[you know what? snipping out the disgusting misogyny and rape apologism, because this asshole doesn’t deserve his disgusting screed spread around where everyone has to be subjected to it. click through to see it if you want.]

There are cases wherein the girl is completely DRUNK and for some reason, a boy takes advantage of her. 

for some reason? the reason is that he’s a rapist. do you not hear what you’re saying here, douchebro? you sound like a rapist tbh. like, you honestly don’t understand that “taking advantage” of a drunk girl is rape? if someone asked me to guess if you had raped someone before i’d have a really hard time saying no.

i can already hear your bawing reaction about how i’m generalizing or something, but dude. you just spent all this time defending rapists and getting really fucking pissed off at women who dare to leave their houses and don’t want to be harassed or raped. which is a strange thing to do if you don’t want to rape anyone. for fucking real. get some therapy and try to avoid being around women bc this looks like it could be a real problem for you. maybe carry a whistle and surround yourself with sober friends who will stop you when you feel the urge to ~take advantage~. get a strategically placed tattoo that warns women that you don’t understand consent. i’m not going to even get into all the ~indisputable facts~ about rape culture that you’re spouting in that post bc lol. you’re obviously a lost cause.

just get on that rape whistle business. or maybe you should just stay inside your house. bc so long as there aren’t any women there you won’t be tempted to rape anyone. definitely don’t go to clubs. or walk around the streets at 3am. or make out with girls at bars. just remove all temptation, bro.

(via stunglikehell)

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